Saying no. Toddlers are good at this, but somewhere along
the line we lose the ability to say “no” and stick to our guns. I’m not sure
why this happens except no one wants to be labeled as a
difficult-to-get-along-with-bitch.
The thing is, saying no is a useful tool which can promote
sanity. By saying “no” we lay down our boundaries. When a person respects this,
we can gauge his or her level of regard for us and give it back to them.
Too many people equate saying “no” in a purely
negative light and that’s not always the case. If someone tells you “no,” you
may want to politely ask for clarification. The answer to gently asking if it’s “no right now
or no not ever,” is a helpful thing to know. It can avoid confusion in the future. And if it’s “no, not right now,” give the person time. They may broach to topic to you at a better time for them.
So don’t be afraid
or offended by “no.” Take the time to figure it out what it really means. Take the time to use it wisely.
Rayne
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